If you’re reading this, chances are your relationships often feel one-sided, like you are the only one doing the heavy lifting, listening, connecting, reaching out, being supportive, while the other person just never seems to reciprocate.
How New Traditions Can Help with Holiday Depression
If the end-of-the-year holiday traditions are bringing up conflicted feelings for you, you’re not alone. For many people, feelings of nostalgia can bring up regret; trying to create (or re-create) community can feel isolating; and even joyful activities can remind us of old pains that we usually try to ignore.
Anyone who has tried to maintain a holiday tradition in the wake of a loss or major life change can tell you: Trying to keep things as they were is its own kind of torture.
The Bi+ Guide to Going Home for the Holidays
Yes, another “holiday edition” blog post. They’re springing up everywhere!
This is a good one, especially for my fellow Bi+ (bisexual, pansexual, non-monosexual) folks, especially if you are in a relationship with a partner of a different gender. Bi+ people are less likely to be out, and can easily get roped into phobic rhetoric that is annoying on a good day, but triggering on a bad day.
People often feel like they have “no choice” but to commit to stressful, sometimes harmful family events. Hey guess what, you don’t have to. But if you do decide to attend, you can make it less painful for yourself and maybe even have a good time.
Do Traumatic Childhoods Create High-Achieving Adults?
When to Check on Your Strongest Friend
5 Things Perfectionists Should Know When Life Feels Like an Uphill Battle
Engaged Couples: Handling the Bad Days Before Your Big Day
Is Your Relationship Toxic?
Watching Your Bloopers vs Your Highlights
Frustrated That Your Goal-Setting Isn't Working?
If your goal-setting isn't working, it might be because you're focusing on the wrong tasks. Have you ever set a deadline...and then kept moving it? Do you want to be a marathon runner but don't know where to start? Use this guide to figure out how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
100 Things That Happen After Your Mom Dies
Losing a parent changes who you are; I often tell people it's like joining a shitty club that no one wants to be a part of.
This week marks five years since my mom passed away.
As I reflect on the past five years, I've remembered some things and forgotten others; I've grown; I've surprised myself in a lot of ways.
Here are 100 things that happened after my mom died. If you've lost someone you're close to, you might recognize some of these.
How to Tell if your Partner Respects You
Couples sometimes panic when they start having the same disagreement over and over again. They're worried it's a sign of a fundamental mismatch in their relationship. They may avoid the disagreement to avoid potentially ending the relationship. But that makes things worse!
I spoke with Jamie Kravitz at Elite Daily a few weeks ago about how to tell if your partner respects you. I believe that almost any relationship can be improved, and a disagreement (even a frustrating, recurring one) doesn't necessarily mean the end.
Guest Blog Post: 40 Kind and Positive Words for Your Body
How to Identify Your Own Toxic Behavior
Does Couples Therapy Really Work?
It's OK to go to Bed Angry
I Think I'm Feeling Burnt Out. What Do I Do?
The Nice Person's Guide to Setting Boundaries
Yeah, ok. You keep hearing about "the importance of setting boundaries" and you kind of have an idea of what people mean by that. (It's just saying "no" a lot more frequently....right?)
How do you set limits without hurting people's feelings? Especially when you don't even intend to be hurtful, but people take it the wrong way? Sometimes it feels easier to just give in and hope the other person notices that they're asking too much.
