The Self-Trust Group
Current Meeting Dates:
October 4 - December 6, 2022.
Enrolling now.
What if guilt didn’t run your life?
If you could feel proud of your choices, and didn’t keep stressing that “you know better” but aren’t acting like it?
What if you didn’t feel like a burden to those around you?
If you could give and receive joyfully with your loved ones? If you didn’t constantly fear inadequacy, being “too much,” or “not enough,” and stop constantly apologizing?
Do you wish you could choose to respond, rather than react? feel hostage to your reactions?
If you didn’t feel like you are a hostage to your emotions, and could make decisions that feel in alignment with your values? If you didn’t wait for others to tell you what direction to go in?
What would getting a handle on these issues make room for in your life?
When you have self-trust, you move differently through your life.
That is what the Self-Trust group is about.
There are many reasons why we end up this way.
Maybe you are an eldest child (or treated like an eldest child), saddled with the emotional responsibility of your household growing up.
Maybe you were caught off guard by the collapse of a relationship, and have blamed yourself in relationships ever since.
Maybe there is something in your past you need to forgive yourself for, but you haven’t. And instead, your work, relationships, and self-image are taking a hit every day.
Five Habits You Let Go Of when You Begin to Trust Yourself
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These experiences end up making us feel like:
We are always looking outside of ourselves for who we are - serial dating, seeking validation from our boss.
Constantly feeling like “too much” and “not enough,” somehow at the same time.
Compensating for inadequacy and then beating ourselves up for over-extending ourselves.
Even though intellectually we “know better,” we have a hard time internalizing these beliefs and still feel stuck making choices that we are not proud of.
The antidote to this is self-trust. More than self-compassion, deeper than self-esteem.
Self-trust tells us that even on our bad days (or weeks, or months) we are valuable and capable just by virtue of who we are.
We are more than what people tell us we are. More than what we can do for others. More than the difficult experiences of our past.
In short, self-trust means:
I do what I say I’m going to do, and i believe myself when i say so.
Why should we do this in a group?
Because trust is often broken in relationship with others - that is where it is rebuilt too.
What do we cover?
In ten weeks, we will cover topics such as:
emotional caretaking - what it is and why we do it
making space for grief - what did you not receive that you needed?
befriending guilt and anger
taking accountability while releasing responsibility - what is my problem?
loneliness, attachment, and how to be an adult in relationships
The Details
Group meets over Zoom for 10 Tuesdays: October 4 - December 6.
6:00pm - 7:15pm, PST.
Open to residents of California only.
Total cost is $597.
(Payment plan = $197 deposit, $200 on November 1, $200 on December 1, 2022.)
Meet your facilitator: Wanda Diep, LCSW
As a child of Southeast Asian immigrants, I grew up with stories about pain, hope and perseverance. I also grew up with the effects of having limited resources and the chronic feeling of "catching up.”
I got used to existing in what feels like an in-between space, where I felt like an “other” everywhere I went.
It has taken some time and many uncomfortable moments, but I've come to learn to accept the complexity of having multiple truths exist at once, and how to work alongside uncertainty rather than against it.