When we make the decision to come to therapy, we often expect to focus on others' behavior and how it impacts us. We show up ready with a list of reasons why we feel depressed, anxious, withdrawn, and angry. There's usually one incident that pushes us to call a professional. And it's usually someone else's fault.
The harder, and perhaps more important work, is turning the mirror on ourselves. (Hear me out!)
This might be easy for some people. Those who are hesitant to blame others and are more likely to think their circumstances are their own fault.
It's a balance, for sure. Aren't we as adults accountable for our own actions? But then, isn't everyone else responsible for theirs?
I recently spoke with Annamarie Higley at Brit + Co about how to identify our own toxic behavior. I think of this as our secret weapon when we're ready to try therapy. Navigating relationships can be confusing. It's hard to know what's "our fault" and what isn't. But if we are courageous enough to take a look at our own not-so-bright-side, we are better equipped to determine when other people have crossed the line (instead of us).
Take a look at Annamarie's article here. And if you're ready to confront your own toxic behavior in one of the safest and most honest places there is, call me at (562) 704-4736 for a free consultation. I promise, I won't judge you for being petty, drinking hater-ade, or sometimes bullying your way through life. Prospect Therapy welcomes individuals and couples of all genders and orientations in Long Beach, Seal Beach, and surrounding areas.