by Sara Stanizai, LMFT.
Most people who reach out to me have already done real therapy, sometimes for years, and can describe their relationship with genuine accuracy: the pattern, the roles, the whole shape of it. That was never going to be enough on its own. Here's the structural thing weekly therapy just isn't built to do, no matter how good the therapist is.
by Sara Stanizai, LMFT.
You can know exactly what's wrong with your relationship, be able to give a TED talk on it, and still be completely unable to stop it.
Most couples who sit down with me have already done the work of naming their own dynamic somewhere else, sometimes years of somewhere else. They know who pursues and who withdraws, they know what sets it off, and they're still stuck, because understanding a pattern and actually interrupting it in real time are two entirely different skills, and almost nobody ever gets taught the second one.
Here's what's usually going on underneath the fight you haven't been able to fix.
by Tiffany Hooton, LMFT.
Think about the last time you felt truly at ease in a relationship, not just comfortable, but safe. Safe enough to say what you wanted. Safe enough to say what you didn't. For many of us, that kind of ease isn't something that comes automatically. It's built, slowly, through a thousand small moments of honesty and repair.
by Brianna Patti, LMFT.
A common question you can ask your therapist before you get started is, “What kind of therapy do you provide?” If you want to be more specific, you can ask about their modality to learn how they conceptualize mental health symptoms, disorders, and wellbeing.
My short answer is that I practice humanistic and person-centered therapy because I believe people are capable of growth when they’re met with genuine authenticity, acceptance, and curiosity. I view each client as a whole person who has been uniquely affected by their surroundings, and I maintain a balanced focus on their strengths and challenges without assuming that I know what’s best for them.
by Andrew Kravig, LMFT.
If you’re an adult living with ADHD, you’ve probably spent years being told to “just focus! Be more organized,” or “try harder!” Over time, those messages can become internalized, leaving you feeling frustrated, ashamed, or exhausted. This little guide isn’t about fixing you, because you’re not broken. It’s about understanding how your brain works and building systems that can actually support it. It might feel like a small start, but it’s a start!
by Tiffany Hooton, LMFT.
Think about the last time you felt truly at ease in a relationship, not just comfortable, but safe. Safe enough to say what you wanted. Safe enough to say what you didn't. For many of us, that kind of ease isn't something that comes automatically. It's built, slowly, through a thousand small moments of honesty and repair.
Any person invested in their own growth will eventually question - how do I know when I’m asking for too much? Am I being fair? Am I going overboard with my boundaries now that I finally learned how helpful they can be?
If you’re uncomfortable speaking up for yourself, most of your personal work (with or without therapy) has probably been learning how to set boundaries.
When it comes to setting and carrying out boundaries, we want to push ourselves to grow and improve, but we also want to be accountable. This can feel like a circus act sometimes. So where’s the balance between asking and demanding?
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